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Other Topics => Completely Off-Topic => Topic started by: MeechNess on April 27, 2003, 11:10:26 am
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Well, my friend is going to ask my crush (everyone says he likes me and I've caught him staring at me a few times) to go with me, her and another one of our friends and she wants me to tell her where I want to go but I have no idea where to go!! Can you help me figure out a good place to go on a first sort of date? lol :lol: :oops: :wink:
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i know its kinda cliched...but how about bowling or ice skating? its fun, you wont have those awkward silences if you run out of conversation, because you have something to do....and it has plenty of scope for flirting :wink:
stuff like a meal and the cinema arent that great cause you cant talk for eating and you're watching the film...you're better saving them for when you're dating..
hope that helps a little :D
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Ok, first off.. if you are over the age of 15 then you need to ask him yourself. DOn't let your friend do it. It will make you look childish.
Next, a first date should be VERY generic and should be something easily escaped from. So keep it simple and informal. Also, something where you dont have to talk the entire time is nice. Which is why movies, plays, shows work great.
Going to the movies, while over done, is still a very good first date. Not to disagree with Gemma ;), but I think the fact that you DON'T talk much is what makes them so perfect. IF you are forced to talk too much on a first date it always turns awkward. Concerts are also great.
ALso, if there is something you do that is unique, if you can incorporate that in, its usually pretty cool. Like I had a girl invite me to an art show she had some work in for a first date. That was pretty damn cool.
Also, afternoon dates are underused because they are usually short but they are great for getting to know someone. Meet for lunch, or to go to the mall or a matinee movie. These also let you escape easily if the date goes bad.
---Andrew
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Yup yup, I agree with Andrew
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and if me and tricia agree then it must be true!
---Andrew
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and if me and tricia agree then it must be true!
---Andrew
Yes Andrew gives the best advice.
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LOL! Was that sarchasm, Nikkee? :wink:
---Andrew
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thanks you guys! lol... Well, it's not really a date date because two of our friends would be there.. But, yeah, if we do start dating, I'll keep that in mind, lol!
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What started out as plans for a nice 4 people hang out is turning into a sort of party! lol... Half my class is going and some other people I don't know... Jeff(my other crush) might be going if he isn't too tired from racing motocross, woo woo... The "party" starts at 10pm and ends at 1am.. Yes, I'll be there the whole time! lol.. My parents don't care that I'll be getting home around 1:30am.. hehe.. This Saturday is so going to rock! Even though I can't bowl... lol! Jordan will be there, possibly as my boyfriend, possibly as just a "really close friend" as he says... lol
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You're 16 years old. It's time to learn how to ask someone out. Seriously. This "Maybe as my boyfriend" stuff doesn't fly when you're 16. If the guy is being intentionally ambiguous about the status of your relationship then hes doing it for a reason...... and its probabaly not a reason you will like.
If you like the guy then sit him down and talk to him! Or else just try and plant one on him and see if he squirms away. But dont play word games with him. That's just silly. You're 16! Not 12! Take a risk!
---Andrew
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Risks are scary. *hides* But I've actually done the whole "just grab the guy and plant one on him" and it worked. Maybe you should give it a shot. ;)
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LOL! Was that sarchasm, Nikkee? :wink:
---Andrew
:)
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no, you don't understand.. I'm not your normal 16 year old... I am extremely extremely shy.. and yes, I have thought about just planting one on him... then I think better of it, lol.. I see him in school, when we're around all of our friends, I wouldn't want to embarrass him by kissing him in front of everyone... I dunno... I'll just shut up now...
Anyway, even if he doesn't like me as more than friends which, by the way he acts is almost unlikely, it won't matter... We'd still be friends.. I've dealt with being rejected plenty of times to know life goes on! Besides, there is a guy at the store across the street that likes me, if nothing more happens with Jordan, I'll just try to get to know that guy better..
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Wow! I've never heard such a frightening lack of self-esteem! People are attracted to confidence. Be more confident!
Say it with me once; Im good enough, im smart enough, and gosh darn-it, people like me :wink:
Arrange to see this boy AWAY from your other friends and then try something. Stop JUST hanging out with him around other people. You'll never know where you stand with him otherwise.
Also, one thing ive learned, if you try and balance two guys at once you're not gonna get either of them. Pick 1 boy and focus on him. Don't try and keep a backup plan around. It never works out cause he ends up feeling like your second choice and people hate that.
---Andrew
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8O Babs was going on a possible date and i missed it?! arrrrrrgh
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You're 16 years old. It's time to learn how to ask someone out.
NO, NO ITS NOT! *hides*
If you like the guy then sit him down and talk to him! Or else just try and plant one on him and see if he squirms away. But dont play word games with him. That's just silly. You're 16! Not 12! Take a risk!
---Andrew
Its not that easy, boys play games too. They really really play games (maybe i'm choosing the wrong blokes!?) and people are always going to be scared of rejection. Even if you are the most confident person in the world its not that easy to just 'plant one on' someone.
Once again *sigh* reaching my conclusion: Boys suck!
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Also, one thing ive learned, if you try and balance two guys at once you're not gonna get either of them. Pick 1 boy and focus on him. Don't try and keep a backup plan around. ---Andrew
Hahahaha. I was gonna say, "AMEN, brother!" but then I was like, "Hmmm, wait a second!" So, Andrew, the trying to date two guys at once never worked out? What a shame. Don't worry, the right boy will come along and you won't need to do that anymore... :razz:
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Where to go on a first date???
Your bedroom.
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Where to go on a first date???
Your bedroom.
Oh, PUHLEASE!!!
You ask for serious answers on your threads but can't make a single post without some sort of innuendo? Ahh it really is some sort of sick skill.
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You're 16 years old. It's time to learn how to ask someone out.
NO, NO ITS NOT! *hides*
I'm 19... :oops:
If you like the guy then sit him down and talk to him! Or else just try and plant one on him and see if he squirms away. But dont play word games with him. That's just silly. You're 16! Not 12! Take a risk!
---Andrew
Its not that easy, boys play games too. They really really play games (maybe i'm choosing the wrong blokes!?) and people are always going to be scared of rejection. Even if you are the most confident person in the world its not that easy to just 'plant one on' someone.
Once again *sigh* reaching my conclusion: Boys suck!
Planting one on a boy is NOT easy!! I don't think I'd ever dare to just randomly kiss a guy I like unless I was already going out with him, cos even if I knew he wouldn't just look away if I tried to kiss him, I just don't have the guts :?
Also, one thing ive learned, if you try and balance two guys at once you're not gonna get either of them. Pick 1 boy and focus on him. Don't try and keep a backup plan around. It never works out cause he ends up feeling like your second choice and people hate that.
Couldn't agree more. Never works if you're trying to decide between two. Never.
LOL@ Tat LOL!
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Well, my friend is going to ask my crush (everyone says he likes me and I've caught him staring at me a few times) to go with me, her and another one of our friends and she wants me to tell her where I want to go but I have no idea where to go!! Can you help me figure out a good place to go on a first sort of date? lol :lol: :oops: :wink:
First of all if you cant ask the guy out yourself..how do you expect or think it will be to "actually" be around him....if i learned anything never get someone else to do the asking because the guy will think ya chicken..you have to be confient about things....if he says no..then move on and keep smiling, if he says yea..then thats amazing! I guess i'm different...when it comes to most people....
hmm...i wouldnt actually call this a
cool thing though..if other people is involved..i could never do that..i want to be alone with my guy..its the best way t get to know each other better..etc.
Also....its not really about the place...that isnt really important here..the important thing is to make sure the person you are with is enjoying themselves and you are being comfortable...there is no perfect date..there is no perfect place.. dont get me wrong...i.love dancing, taking long walks,the ocean, the moonlight,staring at the stars& the beach of course =) .but most importantly the only thing is being with that person would make things seem great and nothing else would seem to matter then to feel the love, happiness ,laughter, wonder and anything else around us quite frankly..lol
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Where to go on a first date???
Your bedroom.
Oh, PUHLEASE!!!
You ask for serious answers on your threads but can't make a single post without some sort of innuendo?
Yes.
Ahh it really is some sort of sick skill.
Yes, it really is.
Now get on your knees (hey look! Another innuendo!) and bow to the master.
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
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i'm shy too... lol, so i know how it is!
i have never been the first one to ask a guy out, but when i find out he likes me, then i call him and invite him places as well.
i go to an all girl school... so that makes me even more shy when it comes to asking guys out, lol. not as much practice. i always have to meet guys through parties or friends.
and i'm especially nervous about dating guys now, cause i think i broke the last guys heart when thats what i was trying so hard not to do.
so yeah... i'm not having luck with it, lol. i'm the shyest person when it comes to guys!
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Hahahaha. I was gonna say, "AMEN, brother!" but then I was like, "Hmmm, wait a second!" So, Andrew, the trying to date two guys at once never worked out? What a shame. Don't worry, the right boy will come along and you won't need to do that anymore... :razz:
:x
I meant that in my experience with women that doesn't work....... And also that women I know ....who have tried to juggle 2 guys at...
you know what. Bite me. :wink:
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you know what. Bite me. :wink:
*screams* He has the skill too!! NOOOOO, where do you learn this? Some kinda skanky innuendo school!?
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you know what. Bite me. :wink:
*screams* He has the skill too!! NOOOOO, where do you learn this? Some kinda skanky innuendo school!?
Where do we learn this?
We refer to it as "America"
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haha so true!
I'm the same as holly to the detail....I dont think for girls you have to be able to ask a guy out at 16 or even ever (if you can pull that off, my props), so I'm not too worried.
Instead of asking out just be a sexy thang ;)
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you know what. Bite me. :wink:
*screams* He has the skill too!! NOOOOO, where do you learn this? Some kinda skanky innuendo school!?
It's all in the South, child of Western Europe in the UK which Equals Protestant Territory (or TAIR-ih-tree for you) Except for in Ireland and I Can't Ever Remember if It's Southern or Northern Ireland that's Catholic Territory But Anyway This is Your New Name ;)