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Other Topics => Polls => Topic started by: Manda on December 20, 2004, 11:58:58 pm
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*If/When you get married will you take his last name?
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But, what if a woman marries another woman? :|
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But, what if a woman marries another woman? :|
great point! If it ever becomes a possibility :-\
I think there should be more options. I see a lot of hyphenated names and a few circumstances where the guy takes the womans!
Personally I don't really care. I guess it's tradition so why not but the amount of paperwork and effort to go through just to have your name changed legally is a pain in the ass. I say keep it as it is... since most marriages end in divorce anyway you don't have to go through the effort of changing it back...LOL
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But, what if a woman marries another woman? :|
great point! If it ever becomes a possibility :-\
It's legal in Canada :)
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I voted yes, but honestly - I agree, there should be more choices. I think I voted yes for the silly reason that my last name is wicked boring! haha :oops: :wink:
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But, what if a woman marries another woman? :|
great point! If it ever becomes a possibility :-\
I think there should be more options. I see a lot of hyphenated names and a few circumstances where the guy takes the womans!
Personally I don't really care. I guess it's tradition so why not but the amount of paperwork and effort to go through just to have your name changed legally is a pain in the ass. I say keep it as it is... since most marriages end in divorce anyway you don't have to go through the effort of changing it back...LOL
agreed .. I reckon it's far too much of a hassle to change names .. all that paper work etc and all for what?
As Shakespere said .. a rose by any othr name is still a rose!!!
SO what's in a name really???
Plus, I've not been adopted by my husband so that I should change my name .. I just "aquired" him and him me .. so i'm still part of my family who raised me and brought me into this world and who I spent the first (and so far) 24 years of my life!! ...
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I voted a 'no' because id rather keep the name that my parents have given me and since my dad is no longer alive and he had no sons then i am going to keep it as a legacy to him :D
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Yes... I don't know why though..
Well, I hate my last name. That's why.
One thing I DO NOT want is to be a Mrs. Joe Doe.
I do NOT want to be called a "Mrs." my husband's name.
I think it's so annoying...
I know most women give up their last name in marriage.
THEY DON'T GIVE UP THEIR FIRST NAME!
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I would much rather take my wife's name than even allow her to take mine. Seriously. :)
Example: John "Jack" (Gillis) White & Meg(an) White, the White Stripes. He took her name, and even after they divorced, they continued to play together and he kept her name. 8)
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
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Do you guys have really crappy last names or something?
I'll take my husband's name. Hell I'd take anyone's name. The more names the better.
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
*shakes head*
Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
*shakes head*
Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?
No need for a jar as aking your wife's last name is not about her controlling you. There is no law stating she must take your last name, is just generally what happens. So what if I decide to break the norm.
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I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here :D
But, what if a woman marries another woman? :|
great point! If it ever becomes a possibility :-\
It will in Spain pretty soon and it's already possible in Holland and Belgium
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I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here :D
But its still a sneaky way of carrying on the man's name- because you have your father's name, not your mother's- so its carries on anyway.
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I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here :D
But its still a sneaky way of carrying on the man's name- because you have your father's name, not your mother's- so its carries on anyway.
Yeah but you carry your father's name FIRST, you still keep (and use) your mother's name after that, cos we use two last names (even though officially we would have an endless list, though most people only know 8 ) You can also change the order of your last names and put your mother's first, and that would be the one you pass onto your children
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yep. if nothing else, for the sake of the children. i think it's important for a family to share one name.
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If I have the girl I want I really don't care what name she uses because she'd be MY woman. LOL
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If anything, Mandi is gonna take my name because 1) her last name sucks (according to her) and 2) she doesn't want ANYTHING to do with her father once she's out of the house.
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I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here :D
But its still a sneaky way of carrying on the man's name- because you have your father's name, not your mother's- so its carries on anyway.
Yeah but you carry your father's name FIRST, you still keep (and use) your mother's name after that, cos we use two last names (even though officially we would have an endless list, though most people only know 8 ) You can also change the order of your last names and put your mother's first, and that would be the one you pass onto your children
But you're mother's name is her father's name though, right?
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hm.. well if i like my husbands last name better than mine then i might take it, but i like my last name so i dunno... and hyphens just make a mess and i wouldnt want my kids to have all these names or have a different name than me. so, i have no clue. :)
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This is silly. How the hell does changing your last name affect you? Its not like you become a different person. Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name. Its all about who you are, not your name.
In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion
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I think there should be more options. I see a lot of hyphenated names and a few circumstances where the guy takes the womans!
My best friend's husband took her name. He said that his name didn't mean a lot to him. He never knew his dad and what not.
Personally I don't really care. I guess it's tradition so why not but the amount of paperwork and effort to go through just to have your name changed legally is a pain in the ass. I say keep it as it is... since most marriages end in divorce anyway you don't have to go through the effort of changing it back...LOL
This is true. A lot of people don't even change it back after the divorce for different reasons, some because of the kids but I guess it depends.
I think that it's tradition but in cases of celebs, they don't want to lose their identity. If I were one I wouldn't change mine either. And like Katia said, they'll end in divorce eventually anyway. Haha. Pesimistic I know but it's the odds.
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This is silly. How the hell does changing your last name affect you? Its not like you become a different person. Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name. Its all about who you are, not your name.
In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion
I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.
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This is silly. How the hell does changing your last name affect you? Its not like you become a different person. Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name. Its all about who you are, not your name.
In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion
I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.
A lot of overly concerned women. Its still just a name and doesnt represent who you are.
Feminism isnt a bad thing in my book, but when it becomes the man hating, revenge seeking feminism my opinion changes.
Its like the black people who want revenge on white people for slavery. None of them alive today are slaves, and no white people alive today had slaves (unless its some 3rd world hellhole idk about them)
Now i know that the principle of the idea makes sense, however it just isnt as important as some woman make it to be. Such as my girlfriend said she would take my last name, and some feminist flipped on her. Thats just stupid *shakes head*
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This is silly. How the hell does changing your last name affect you? Its not like you become a different person. Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name. Its all about who you are, not your name.
In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion
I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.
A lot of overly concerned women. Its still just a name and doesnt represent who you are.
Feminism isnt a bad thing in my book, but when it becomes the man hating, revenge seeking feminism my opinion changes.
Its like the black people who want revenge on white people for slavery. None of them alive today are slaves, and no white people alive today had slaves (unless its some 3rd world hellhole idk about them)
Now i know that the principle of the idea makes sense, however it just isnt as important as some woman make it to be. Such as my girlfriend said she would take my last name, and some feminist flipped on her. Thats just stupid *shakes head*
I agree. If a woman wants to keep her own name because she hates her husband's name, particularly likes her own name, can't be bothered to make the switch or pretty much any other reason, then that's fine by me. But if it's solely a matter of feminist principle, however inextreme, then it's annoyingly pathetic.
-Kev
Edit: I'm not entirely sure inextreme is a word. But you get the idea.
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
*shakes head*
Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?
No need for a jar as aking your wife's last name is not about her controlling you. There is no law stating she must take your last name, is just generally what happens. So what if I decide to break the norm.
Breaking the norm is only done for a REASON. Following the norm is done "because it is the norm."
Therefore, the honus falls on YOU to demonstrate a good reason to BREAK the norm. The only reason being because your a big giant leaking vagina.
Seriously, you can't possibly give me an explanation that does not immediatly flow from "your wife wants to be the controlling one and this is her way of demonstrating it."
And don't give me some "her last name is better" line. Cause that's bogus. There *IS* pride in keeping your last name.
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I said yes to the question......
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
*shakes head*
Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?
You're a vagina hater.
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I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.
*shakes head*
Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?
You're a vagina hater.
The vagina is the only part of a woman I like!
:D
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I would but I'd put a hifen so my name could be there too.
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im totally taking his last name....my name is retarded!
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I voted "yes..." That is, if his name doesn't suck and I'm not a big superstar by then. :wink:
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hehe i agree with Shannon... I'm gonna take my man's surname, but for the purposes of my career, keep the name i have now. A hyphenated name would be cool, but in my case, it would be weird and ridiculously long...
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To me, Shannon's already a superstar! :D
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To me, Shannon's already a superstar! :D
awww :oops: :D
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If I have the girl I want I really don't care what name she uses because she'd be MY woman. LOL
newsflash steve- women aren't property.
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i decided i'm going to create my own line of women.
because, even if you do keep your last name, you're still keeping your fathers name, and even if i wanted my mom's last name, her last name was HER fathers last name and so forth, all trailing descendence back from the male.. WHY? women are the ones who make the baby, give birth to it, and go through all the hard work, and her name just gets erased? it's like losing your identity when someone calls you Mrs. John Doe. thats so fucken retarded.
also, i like my last name. i'm not even big on the idea of marriage & children in the first place so the above might never happen, cos then i'd have to have a baby. which i don't want to. also, unless i marry a latin man, i wouldn't want to give up my pretty last name for some boring american name.. that's just not me.
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no, because i love my last name "silva candido", my dad and my mom gave me.it´s totally latin. yes, here in brazil our parents can put both last name :wink:
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Well i'm not married but I guess I would.