Marriage Question (for women)

[neos]

I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here

But its still a sneaky way of carrying on the man's name- because you have your father's name, not your mother's- so its carries on anyway.

Yeah but you carry your father's name FIRST, you still keep (and use) your mother's name after that, cos we use two last names (even though officially we would have an endless list, though most people only know 8 ) You can also change the order of your last names and put your mother's first, and that would be the one you pass onto your children

[Holly]

yep. if nothing else, for the sake of the children. i think it's important for a family to share one name.

[Steveau]

If I have the girl I want I really don't care what name she uses because she'd be MY woman. LOL

[Will]

If anything, Mandi is gonna take my name because 1) her last name sucks (according to her) and 2) she doesn't want ANYTHING to do with her father once she's out of the house.

[rosieposy87]

I don't have to. All women keep their own last names here

But its still a sneaky way of carrying on the man's name- because you have your father's name, not your mother's- so its carries on anyway.

Yeah but you carry your father's name FIRST, you still keep (and use) your mother's name after that, cos we use two last names (even though officially we would have an endless list, though most people only know 8 ) You can also change the order of your last names and put your mother's first, and that would be the one you pass onto your children

But you're mother's name is her father's name though, right?

[Jessica]

hm.. well if i like my husbands last name better than mine then i might take it, but i like my last name so i dunno... and hyphens just make a mess and i wouldnt want my kids to have all these names or have a different name than me. so, i have no clue. :)

[Logikal X]

This is silly.  How the hell does changing your last name affect you?  Its not like you become a different person.  Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name.  Its all about who you are, not your name.  


In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion

[eclv]

I think there should be more options.  I see a lot of hyphenated names and a few circumstances where the guy takes the womans!

My best friend's husband took her name. He said that his name didn't mean a lot to him. He never knew his dad and what not.

Personally I don't really care.  I guess it's tradition so why not but the amount of paperwork and effort to go through just to have your name changed legally is a pain in the ass.  I say keep it as it is... since most marriages end in divorce anyway you don't have to go through the effort of changing it back...LOL

This is true. A lot of people don't even change it back after the divorce for different reasons, some because of the kids but I guess it depends.

I think that it's tradition but in cases of celebs, they don't want to lose their identity. If I were one I wouldn't change mine either. And like Katia said, they'll end in divorce eventually anyway. Haha. Pesimistic I know but it's the odds.

[rosieposy87]

This is silly.  How the hell does changing your last name affect you?  Its not like you become a different person.  Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name.  Its all about who you are, not your name.  


In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion

I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.

[Logikal X]

This is silly.  How the hell does changing your last name affect you?  Its not like you become a different person.  Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name.  Its all about who you are, not your name.  


In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion

I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.

A lot of overly concerned women.  Its still just a name and doesnt represent who you are.  

Feminism isnt a bad thing in my book, but when it becomes the man hating, revenge seeking feminism my opinion changes.  

Its like the black people who want revenge on white people for slavery.  None of them alive today are slaves, and no white people alive today had slaves (unless its some 3rd world hellhole idk about them)


Now i know that the principle of the idea makes sense, however it just isnt as important as some woman make it to be.  Such as my girlfriend said she would take my last name, and some feminist flipped on her.  Thats just stupid  *shakes head*

[kev222]

This is silly.  How the hell does changing your last name affect you?  Its not like you become a different person.  Its also not like someone is better than anyone else because of their last name.  Its all about who you are, not your name.  


In any case i dont care what my wife wants when i get married, its just a name, and does not represent who i am in any fashion

I don't think you quite understand how its more a matter of principle for a lot of women than the practicality. For a lot of people, taking their husband's name may symbolise an era when women had to do everything for their husband and basically act as their slave.

A lot of overly concerned women.  Its still just a name and doesnt represent who you are.  

Feminism isnt a bad thing in my book, but when it becomes the man hating, revenge seeking feminism my opinion changes.  

Its like the black people who want revenge on white people for slavery.  None of them alive today are slaves, and no white people alive today had slaves (unless its some 3rd world hellhole idk about them)


Now i know that the principle of the idea makes sense, however it just isnt as important as some woman make it to be.  Such as my girlfriend said she would take my last name, and some feminist flipped on her.  Thats just stupid  *shakes head*

I agree. If a woman wants to keep her own name because she hates her husband's name, particularly likes her own name, can't be bothered to make the switch or pretty much any other reason, then that's fine by me. But if it's solely a matter of feminist principle, however inextreme, then it's annoyingly pathetic.

-Kev

Edit: I'm not entirely sure inextreme is a word. But you get the idea.

[Grakthis]

I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.

*shakes head*

Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?

No need for a jar as aking your wife's last name is not about her controlling you.  There is no law stating she must take your last name, is just generally what happens.  So what if I decide to break the norm.

Breaking the norm is only done for a REASON.  Following the norm is done "because it is the norm."

Therefore, the honus falls on YOU to demonstrate a good reason to BREAK the norm.  The only reason being because your a big giant leaking vagina.

Seriously, you can't possibly give me an explanation that does not immediatly flow from "your wife wants to be the controlling one and this is her way of demonstrating it."

And don't give me some "her last name is better" line.  Cause that's bogus.  There *IS* pride in keeping your last name.

[Tiger Baby]

I said yes to the question......

[Fairy]

I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.

*shakes head*

Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?

You're a vagina hater.

[Grakthis]

I'm no woman, but I wouldn't count out taking my wife's last name.

*shakes head*

Did you already get a jar to keep your testicles in while your woman keeps them for you?

You're a vagina hater.

The vagina is the only part of a woman I like!