Rosie,
I understand what you are saying, but check this. Once you get the guy to take you out, thats when you get to dazzle him with your personality.
Or is it all about good looks? If hes not blinded by your radiance then you dont want to go out with him?
So if a guy asks YOU out, and you dont instantly swoon at his good looks then you're gonna turn him down?
Girls accept dates from guys they think are just "OK" looking all the time, and then he guy gets more attractive the more time they spend with him.
My cousin just married a guy she wasn't at all attracted to at first.
I dont see why it has to work one way for guys and another way for girls. I think girls should feel comfortable asking a guy out the same way guys should feel comfortable asking a girl out.
Equal rights, womens lib and all that.
---Andrew