How fast is too fast?

[CaliGirl20]

What do ya'll think?  I was just talking about this with someone last night but I wonder what other people think.

[skyestar]

well i think it's subjective.. ppl should do what they want but i guess 1 month is a bit questionable  

[xxjenniferxx]

i'm not really sure...it depends i guess..its all up to you :?

but i think people should wait  like a really good while (1 year or something) before they decide to get marry because the least thing you would want to do is make a mistake..and ive seen many marriages failed miserably because of being impatient....and thinking they were "in love" when it really was based on infatuation which leads you to do crazy things..and cause you to be blinded by love..
getting married 4 to 6 months after being in a relationship is simply not love...but something else that will soon fade away and cause problems with the relationship...but love is patient and always should be more reasonable..
getting married 2 weeks after being with someone is really crazy and is simple to see the relationship will not last due to being foolish ...because theres noway you can know anything about that person in 2 weeks..and so on...
i mean you have to be sure if you're really ready to accept everything with your partner and give it back as well...etc etc.
IMO


i don't really know though....it depends on the person and situation...but all know is i will never rush into getting married with anyone..i don't really care how long it takes...i must know a person well enough before it happens and we both have to be faithful and supportive to each other no matter what the outcome is... :razz:

[JazzyManda]

i think at least a year. because, you're going to be living with that person the rest of your life (well, you should be anyways) and 1 month to 9 isn't enough time to get to know every little thing about that person; to know if you can live with what they're like in any situation.

that's just what i think

Amanda

[Gina]

i chose 9 months, but who knows really.

[tylor2000]

All of the above.

But that is probably because I've been married.  It's going to take alot for me to get married again.  I'm going to be VERY picky.  But with the right woman I might do it all over.  I'm partial to living in sin. :wink:

tylor

[Holly]

I think marraige is a serious step and needs a lot of time to go into... but I'm not sure how much time. I know I'd wait atleast a year... but that's just me. And I'm with Tylor, I'm picky, lol. Haven't been married... but I've had my share of bad guys to know that I am.

[tylor2000]

It's not so much that I think it is a serious step as the nature of the relationship and how it can change when you introduce the concept of marriage.  If I get married there won't be any religious motivations behind it.  It will be because I know I can trust the person to take a certain perspective of it.

tylor

[Holly]

I don't think the seriousness is only the religious aspect of it... there are many many people who take marraige seriously who aren't religious! To many people the seriousness is the vow to eachother to stay together forever only, not the vow under God. I just think marriage is a very special thing that just looses it's importance if people aren't positive they're ready to enter into it.
I did a research project on divorce a month or 2 ago and I learned about both sides of it though. Sometimes there are good reasons for breaking up a marraige that cant be predicted or avoided, but sometimes people just dont think about it enough before getting into it.

[tylor2000]

Oh I'm sorry for implying the seriousness lies in the religious aspect alone.  I meant like I would actaully concider marrying a mailorder bride for a month or two....but a real relationship would be different.  Something like that....erm

tylor

[CaliGirl20]

I don't know how fast is too fast.. Maybe nothing's too fast, maybe it takes time, like a year.  Each time I've been proposed to, I felt like it was too fast.  One was after a month, one after 8 months, and one after 4 years (4 years of knowing me, bu not 4 years of dating).  The 4 year one was a complicated one, it wasn't because of time spent getting to know each other.

[tylor2000]

I don't think it is about how much time you take before marriage.  It is about the two people being able to deal with the new limits and powers over their significant other and upon themselves.  At least from my current view of it.

tylor

[Manda]

1 month fo sho!

Manda

[rosieposy87]

My friends' parents got married after 10 days, and they've been together 25 years (and her dad is a priest!). But i don't know, i don't think anyone can judge how much you love someone and how well you know them.

[Tia]

Depends on the people... (etc.)