But if I use the "people against this hate fags" argument it gets a lot more attention
That's why I wouldn't let the issue drop. It's a dirty debating tactic. For shame.
How about this statement; Everyone who is for this amendment, on the basis of believing that gary marriage is morally wrong, is a bigot.
Does that statement hold up better in your mind?
No, for reasons along the same lines as the things many have already pointed out in this thread. If a person believes that (just for example say) banks should not be able to refuse gay people a mortgage that an equivelent married couple are entitled to, or that gays should not be denied whatever other important legal stuff comes attached to marriage (like the things Todd mentioned),
just that gay people should not be allowed to marry, then this support for a ban on homosexual marriage doesn't involve support for loss of homosexual rights. So in this case there would be no bigotry. Or would that still be bigotry to you because the person would still believe homosexual marriage is a sin and this belief is the basis for their support of a ban? But, let's leave it at that (edit: unless you have anything else to say), I'm tired, so yes the statement stands.
-Kev